Hi - Don't be afraid to gradually add soy milk to your diet, including drinking it.
Beans (including soy) contain raffinose, a natural sugar. If you're used to eating them, your body produces plenty of the digestive enzymes needed for raffinose, and you won't get any gas or bloating at all. But, if you never ever eat beans or soy, you're going to have to go very carefully if want to start. Your body will gradually start digesting the raffinose, and eventually you shouldn't have problems. Go slow, and try using Beano with every meal - that will really help.
It's worth increasing your tolerance to soy as it will allow you a lot of flexibility in cooking, and is also a good source of protein.
- Heather
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