Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | My Dad Is At Peace Now - Can't Believe It's Been A Month (Updates 1-11 Below)

I can't believe it's been a month already and I'm just now able to write about it.....

As you all know.... my Dad is now at peace..... He passed on Sat, 2/17 at the young age of 58. What finally took him was a heart attack (it happened at 3:30am none of the family was with him WHEN THAT happened, by the time we all got there 4:15am, HE was really already gone and had no idea that we where were even there)�.he was just so sick and not strong enough to make it without all the meds they were pumping into him and the vent that was keeping him going.... after spiking a temp of 104 that they were not able to bring down and still no response from him at all....we called ALL the family and many were able to come to see him and say goodbye�. we had him removed from everything and he passed peacefully and naturally in less then 5 mins (5:30pm).

Per the death certificate: cardiogenic shock, acute respiratory failure, pneumonia, chronic obesity hypoventilation syndrome, end stage renal disease, sepsis, and cellulites. He was one sick man!

There was no service at his request, but there was a gathering at the house on 2/25....it went very well... I continued to be a leaky faucet and the slide show that I made went over very well.....we had about 40 people...in a very small house.... it was just so sad....that it took a death to get us ALL together in one place.... Dad would have loved the kids!

I was glad the gathering was over..... was so tired.....but felt bad going from having 40 people there to just leaving Mom ALONE......

But, she is doing ok..... I go there every couple of days to deal with "stuff"......

If you want to read the obit, you can do so here http://www.legacy.com/NWclassifieds/DeathNotices.asp?Page=LifeStory&PersonID=86590220 ...and you're also welcome to sign the guest book and very a few pictures.

I called Fitz (that HOT radio guy) 100.7 The Wolf the night of Sat 2/24 and dedicated the song playing on my myspace page www.myspace.com/shellmarr to my Dad...... I just sat in the car and CRIED..... then dried off and went in the house...... poor Shane feels so helpless when I leak..... he does not know what to do.....sometimes I think if he did not get up and hug, hold, touch, love me..... it would stop faster..... but even when he is not there..... it just keeps leaking.....

This has been the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with, and some of you know the things I've been through� I think about him all the time� the things we did do together and the things we never got to do.

Everyone�please make time for your loved ones and DO those things you always talk about doing�..you never know when someone's time is up�don't miss out on those things like I did. And PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, take care of yourselves�. eat better, get to the gym, everything that took my father�was in some way or another related to his weight�. It was a real eye opener�. You have NO IDEA until you see it..and I have� how important it really is�.

Again, thank you so much everyone for your love and support�. I've really felt the outpouring�..it is unbelievable. I love you guys!

I LOVE AND MISS YOU DADDY!! XOXO

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