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Beth, I also have recently moved - end of the summer, and I am just now realizing how much of an affect it had on me. I spend SO much time alone, Eric is wonderful but he's gone at work sometimes 14 hours a day. Like you I've made a real effort to make friends and people are nice, but I don't feel like I quite fit in. I think that can be our own perception - we do fear failure, so if people don't obviously LIKE us then we perceive that as they DISLIKE us, when it's not even true really. The whole need to succeed thing is big with me too. I'm learning though!! I agree that your boyfriend can be a great sounding board, but you can overwhelm that relationship, it would be great if there were one other person, someone very wise and who you knows cares for you. I surprisingly found this person to be my mother in law!! (MOM) I'll pray that you find that person in your life too, to help sort all this out. It's amazing how much TALKING about stuff makes you feel better even when the circumstances haven't changed.
Hugs!!!!!!!!!
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Michelle
...the greatest of these is LOVE. (I Cor 13)
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Thanks again to all of you... it feels good to be less alone. Anyone live in Florida??? 
love
beth
p.s. today was an okay day. sat around inside a lot like usual but was not so sad.
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Hey there,
I hope you are finding the emotional support you need on this board. We are so lucky to have found understanding and compassionate people here.
I read your message and really felt for you. I haven't been through this, but have a family member who is like this at times (but it's part of a bigger psychological problem).
My tips to you through learning alongside her is: one of the best things she ever did within herself was to write a journal. Each day she would write her feelings - and it became an outlet for her. Going back over the journal entries, you may also be able to piece together some reasons why you are feeling this way or what is preventing you from going out.
Secondly, her best support (apart from family) is her cat! I know this may sound odd, but she has a cat and feels so comforted just being near it and having that unconditional love. It is also soothing in helping you find some companionship and something to care for whilst in the house.
Finally, don't put too many expectations on yourself. Take small steps for now. Don't try to solve the big picture, but rather, give yourself a small goal for the day, eg Today I will go outside and check the mail. If you can do this, then feel proud of yourself: it's the small steps that will ultimately lead you back on right track.
I hope this has helped and feel free to talk about it more. I'm here (and so are many others) for you.
TLC
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thanks!!
i DO have a cat! and she's great. her name is Niko. i think i'd be totally nuts by now without her. 
thanks EVERYONE for helping me so much. i'm working hard at each day as i get to it.
love
beth
p.s. i went to visit my great aunt today. and got some sunburn! she bothered me for being so pale... that's what i get for being a hermit
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If you ever need someone to chat with I am around hon. I know what it is like having the emotional stress of this disease, I had a minor attack with my bowels this morning and I was ready to give up.
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Cats are the best! I have a pair. Gataki is sitting on top of the moniter now for me. (He holds it down so it dosen't run away while I am typing. So helpful!)
I don't live in Florida, but I wish I did. *waiting for it to get warm up here in Ohio*
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"Soluble fiber not included."
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Don't feel bad for pale. My family and friends call me Vampira because I'm so white. I even live near the beach. I am also headed to Flordia on Sunday I also have a cat, she's the greatest. I've had her longer than hubby. She sleeps on a shelf of my computer desk when I'm in the computer room. We have two more cats outside that wondered up with their mama when they were kittens, we feed them, and they stayed.
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Laurie
Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission - Eleanor Roosevelt
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I have a cat too - His name is Carter and he is spoiled rotten! If you put your nose to his he will rub it back and forth like an eskimo kiss. It took me forever to teach him this. Oh yah - and he can also fetch! And I never even taught him this he just knew how.
I love my kitten! 
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Lana_Marie
Proud Mommy to Bentley Taylor
Born May 12, 2004 9lbs, 3oz
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There's definitely nothing wrong with being pale! I got teased for this in high school too. One of my friends would come up to me in the hall, grab my wrist, and pretend to take my pulse because I was so pale he thought I might be dead! The girl with the locker next to mine went to tanning beds every single day year round. She was the tannest girl in school, and she loved to compare her arm to mine to see how dark she was. But I got the last laugh, because by the time we graduated her skin looked like luggage and she had wrinkles at age 18.
We need little buttons to wear in the summer..."stark white and proud of it" or something. I'd rather be white than bright red from a sunburn any day.
- H
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Okay, now I dont think ANYONE is paler than I am, lol. I think I may be the whitest girl in school! My friends are constantly making sure im not "dead" and asking me if i ever go out in the daylight. lol. The worst part is my best friend is african american, so whenever me and her walk in the halls together, i feel as if i am glowing. lol  
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Healed in Jesus' Name
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