getting ready to give up!!
#69812 - 05/12/04 10:59 AM
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So I have been on the diet for over 8 weeks, and I don't think it is helping me enough for the effort that it requires (and the stress that the diet itself puts me under!).
My three symptoms (had these since childhood) are (1) bloating after everything I eat, (2) loose stool/D every time I have a BM which is about every 2-3 days, and (3) full blown attacks where I have stomach pain only relieved by a BM (usu. painful/explosive).
Since I have been on this diet, I still get really bloated after every meal (or even every snack), and I still have D (I have had maybe two BMs that would be considered "normal" by the rest of the world). The third symptom is the only one that has been reduced at all (my full-blown attacks) and frankly I suspect that the anti-spasmodic has more to do with it than diet.
I am not sure what to do now. The diet itself makes me miserable in that I feel extremely sorry for myself when I can't have the things that I want (all the time), and then I feel guilty for feeling sorry for myself when it isn't like I have a terminal illness or anything, and then I feel bad that my significant other goes to so much trouble to accommodate my diet (he's been amazing).
I also have a hard time getting enough protein -- I think this diet can really sap your energy if you aren't aggressive about protein intake.
My lifestyle (i.e. my job/work schedule) makes it very difficult for me to spend time thinking about my diet and planning ahead for meals, so that adds stress as well (the "what am I going to eat?" thoughts really stress me out).
The upside of the diet is that I have lost some weight that I'd rather not regain (but I think if it were an option I'd rather be a dress size bigger and eat with impunity).
Before trying this diet, I used to be able to ignore my symptoms for the most part (when they only hit every 3rd day, I could just ride the pain out). My significant other would urge me to address my problems and I knew he was right but I thought once I addressed them I could fix them. It seems like I am more upset by symptoms/attacks now because they represent the failure of my efforts (rather than something with which I had yet to address).
Maybe I need to kick my fiber intake up a notch or two... or get a massage.... I don't want to throw away the efforts of the last 8 weeks.
Help? Suggestions? Thoughts?
Thanks in advance to all...
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Oh, no! That's not good that this diet hasn't helped you enough. But first, let's give you credit for and a big round of applause for the decrease in the big bad attacks!!!!
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I would definitely try increasing your fiber. And make absolutely sure you are doing one of Heather's seven deadly sneaky sins from her newsletters.
Other than that, I'm going to suggest something that the rest of the board may not agree with. Since the major issue for you is the stress of trying to follow the diet given your busy lifestyle, maybe try a slightly gentler version of it. Like first just make sure you're getting as much soluble fiber foods as possible and as little roughage, like switch from salads for lunch to sandwiches. Like having a baked potato on the side instead of creamed spinach. Like having pancakes or cereal for breakfast in stead of eggs and bacon. Not that I'm saying you do!
And finally, the hypnotherapy tapes might be what you need. Or a prescription antispasmodic if you don't take one already.
Please don't give up. But don't beat yourself up either. Okay? Find a happy medium you can live with for now. And just take it one day at a time. A friend of mine says he can do anything for 12 hours that would appall him if he had to keep it up for a lifetime! What a great perspective, huh?!
Good luck and keep coming back. Okay?
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Yes, LauraSue gave good advice. How much fiber are you taking right now? What kinds have you tried? Sometimes it's just a matter of one kind not working as well as another. Benefiber makes me WORSE, but citrucel and acacia really help. You are right about the protein. I wasn't getting enough and I've upped that too and have tons more energy! Try soy/rice protein powders in smoothies, turkey, chicken, salmon with a good soluble base. 3oz of poultry or fish is about 25g of protein. Eat that twice a day and some egg whites in the morning and you'd be set.
I think massages help to reduce stress and relax your body--and you feel good for treating yourself every now and then 
Are you exercising enough? Drinking enough water? I know when I don't do those I feel icky. Or for instance, right now, I have MAJOR stress and my tummy's a lost cause in spite of everything. I know that in 2 weeks it'll be over and I can go back to feeling more normal.
For now, I'd try increasing fiber supplements and water and see what happens. That's not too hard to work into your day. Good luck!
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Oh, no! That's not good that this diet hasn't helped you enough. But first, let's give you credit for and a big round of applause for the decrease in the big bad attacks!!!!
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{YAY, YOU!!}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
You know, I think I needed to hear that! I don't think I've been feeling that way and I should.
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I would definitely try increasing your fiber. And make absolutely sure you are doing one of Heather's seven deadly sneaky sins from her newsletters.
I'll look those up and check it out to make sure.
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Other than that, I'm going to suggest something that the rest of the board may not agree with. Since the major issue for you is the stress of trying to follow the diet given your busy lifestyle, maybe try a slightly gentler version of it. Like first just make sure you're getting as much soluble fiber foods as possible and as little roughage, like switch from salads for lunch to sandwiches. Like having a baked potato on the side instead of creamed spinach. Like having pancakes or cereal for breakfast in stead of eggs and bacon. Not that I'm saying you do!
I think you are right -- I need to ease up a little bit but not give up entirely. It's just really really hard for me to know where I can be more lenient... more ideas on this would definitely be appreciated!
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And finally, the hypnotherapy tapes might be what you need. Or a prescription antispasmodic if you don't take one already.
I do take an Rx antispasmodic already (I think it deserves most of the credit for the reduced attacks, actually -- it totally helped this a.m.). As for the tapes, I am having a hard time pulling the trigger on $100 for something that seems suspiciously new-agey to me...
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Please don't give up. But don't beat yourself up either. Okay? Find a happy medium you can live with for now. And just take it one day at a time. A friend of mine says he can do anything for 12 hours that would appall him if he had to keep it up for a lifetime! What a great perspective, huh?!
Great advice. Thank you very much. I was bummed at first because it seemed like no one was going to respond to my post -- it's amazing how much better it makes me feel to have help from people who understand all too well what this is all about!!!
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You're very welcome, pretty lady. As far the new-agey thing, I had the same reaction, but clinical studies have shown a significant benefit. In fact in the UK, health insurance actually pays for hypnotherapy for certain problems because it is proven to help. That said, we all have to do whatever we're most comfortable with. But you'll get LOTS of rave reviews about them from everybody here. Ooh, I think Heather has the article about the study posted in the Library. Can anyone find the link for poor fibrofogged me????
Glad you're around and hope you keep at it, okay??!!
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How much fiber are you taking right now? What kinds have you tried? Sometimes it's just a matter of one kind not working as well as another. Benefiber makes me WORSE, but citrucel and acacia really help.
I take one citrucel tablet in the morning and another midday. I tried metamucil powder (before I knew about the bloat-inducing properties of psyllium) and citrucel powder but found I hated the goop so much that I couldn't get myself to drink it. I haven't tried benefiber, acacia or equalactin. From other posts, it sounds like I should give the equalactin a try in addition to my citrucel tablets. I'll also ask my gastro about increasing my dosage on the citrucel tablets.
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You are right about the protein. I wasn't getting enough and I've upped that too and have tons more energy! Try soy/rice protein powders in smoothies, turkey, chicken, salmon with a good soluble base. 3oz of poultry or fish is about 25g of protein. Eat that twice a day and some egg whites in the morning and you'd be set.
Wow -- 2x a day is tough -- do you pack a lunch? What's a typical day's menu for you?? As for the egg whites -- how are you preparing them? I tend to eat just a Luna bar for breakfast (I'm so not a morning person). I've done the smoothie thing once (well, three times, really: my S.O. made a batch for me and we split it up into 3 servings and froze them) but I need to pick up more frozen fruit from the grocery store so that we can make them again.
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I think massages help to reduce stress and relax your body--and you feel good for treating yourself every now and then
I'm overdue -- I am going to call for an appointment as soon as I finish this post!
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Are you exercising enough? Drinking enough water? I know when I don't do those I feel icky.
I am drowning myself in water but I am not exercising at all -- I need to make time to do that.
Okay, here's what I am taking away from this so far:
-load up on soluble fiber but don't obsess over every rule of the diet (but which ones???)
-talk to doc about increasing citrucel/adding equalactin
-make massage appointment STAT!
-learn more about upping protein intake
-get to the gym
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As far the new-agey thing, I had the same reaction, but clinical studies have shown a significant benefit.
You know, even my regular doctor suggested them to me, and she is pretty grounded. I still feel kinda weird about them for some reason -- not sure why. Maybe I assume (correctly) that I'll probably never listen to them?? I need to borrow a CD walkman or something.
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Hi,
I'm sorry you are having a hard time. Please don't give up. Sometimes it just takes a lot of trial and error to get it right. Believe me, I am so tired of keeping a food diary and then when I have an attack going back and figuring out what caused it. Also, I take a lot of time reading labels at the grocery store. Each one of us is individual in our symptoms and methods of relief. I hope you find yours soon and keep coming to the boards because there is a lot of help and sympathy here.
Good Luck
Barbie
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you've helped the pain, which is a good thing, and I think others gave you lots of advice which will help address the remaining symptoms. And definitely give yourself a big hug and a congrats for doing so much work to help yourself!
I'd dump the Citrucel caps altogether. I don't know why, but for some people (and I'm one of them) they don't seem to work at all - I mean seriously, not at all. Other people have told me the same thing, and I don't know what's going on, but virtually any other soluble fiber pill or powder will work better. And definitely up the dosage - slowly but carefully, try to work up to 12-15 grams a day.
Are you eating enough during the day? A luna bar ain't much for breakfast. Getting enough protein should be a snap. You can have as much seafood, skinless white meat poultry, egg whites, and soy as you like, with every meal if you want. Oatmeal is a good morning source of protein.
Do check the research library under the hypnosis section for a TON of clinical studies in this area. I know it seems new-agey, but it's definitely not. It has better results than any of the IBS drugs on the market, with zero side effects or risks, and much, much better long-term results. It's also cheaper than the drugs not to mention totally safe. The studies are listed here Hypnosis studies for IBS and you can actually listen to audio clips from the program itself right here Listen to the program
It's okay to be frustrated - that's normal, and human, and give yourself permission to feel this. It's also okay to be stressed and angry about IBS - it's not fun or easy to deal with, so give yourself a break. You've been working really hard and not seeing the results you deserve, and you don't have to be happy about that. But do give yourself big snaps for the work you've done, for being persistent, and for asking for more direction so you can keep going forward towards success.
- H
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I know there are times when we ALL get down, and we are sick of checking EVERY SINGLE LABEL when we're at the grocery store, and remembering to take our fiber, and wishing our bellies would just look and feel NORMAL...
But we do have good days!! And there are ALL of us here who can sympathize with you. But hang in there.
Try going shopping and get a big bulk of food you know you can eat without feeling horrible. That way you can take snacks with you and have them when you are hungry and you won't have to think as much about what you are going to eat.
And YES, if you need to cheat every now and then - GO FOR IT (shh.. don't tell). But sometimes we need to stop that craving and then it makes mus want to work harder to get ourselves back to "IBS normal" again.
Light some candles, turn on the soft tunes, take a nice warm bath, drink some tea (or have a piece of chocolate - with some Equalactin - ha!) and just relax!
We're here for ya girly!! 
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Edited by Bethany (05/12/04 02:25 PM)
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