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Hi Ashley,
I was just reading everyone else's posts and I think I agree with something Bev said (probably everything Bev said, she's a smart lady her!) - if he is acting like he wants space and distance, give it to him. I think one of things about people in relationships is that they can sometimes give too much, which makes one person run away. I know I've done it, where I've really smothered someone and it makes them want to spend more and more time away.. but if I just back off, they suddenly appear again!
I know how it is to be trying to think about something else (about anything else!) and all your mind will be is go back to that darn boy... But it will probably help if you keep busy, and do try and just throw yourself into work. At least if you've waitressed before, you know the ropes and it's just a matter of learning a new menu, etc.
The worst thing you can do is let yourself worry and worry 'cause if you're like me, it'll just make you more and more sick and then you'll have _that_ to worry about too, and who needs that??
When I was apart from my boyfriend for a while, I was really miserable for the first few weeks.. I really wanted to phone him every 15 minutes, and I couldn't sleep and everything.. but it does get easier. I think you kinda adjust to being an individual again, rather than half of a couple, and then it is so much easier to just get on with things. Plus, I found I was a bit more independent from him and less clingy when I did come back after that time apart. You never know, this might just make your relationship stronger. If it doesn't, it will definitely make _you_ stronger, and that is the most important thing. I really hope things work out for you, but if they don't you know you have us to talk to and the knowledge that you'll be okay. I tend to really get worked up when things don't work out, and I really let myself believe that my entire world is falling apart.. but it never does. It just stalls up a bit, and then you sort yourself out again.
You are such a lovely, wonderful person that you don't deserve to be feeling so sad, and up all night being sick - so just try to remember that. You are better than that, and you deserve all the fun things in life and you have to go out and get them.
Try and get some sleep tonight, you'll feel so much better for it if you can start getting into a normal routine - it'll help for work, too!
**** big hugs for you ****
--Steph

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