My cousin lost her husband a few years back. They were happily married for a very long time. She had a hard time meeting nice men and met a few jerks along the way. Finally she tried one of the on line match services. I can't remember the name of it at the moment but there are a few good ones (I'll try to think of it - possibly match.com or something similar). She didn't tell anyone because she was embarrassed. She ended up meeting a wonderful guy that had all things in common that she did. He lived close to her and after a while of getting to know each other on line and sharing photos, etc., they decided to meet. Now they are engaged and having the time of their lives. It's something to think about. It is so hard with the whole bar scene where people aren't even being themselves. This way you really get to know them before you go further (just like you are meeting people here and getting to know them) and I think it is a good way to match up interests. Just a thought.