Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Yet another 'I HATE MY JOB' vent....

Hi all,
I am so sorry that I keep having all negative things to post, but it really seems like my life is following that 'when it rains, it pours' saying to a tee. I had to go to work yesterday, and I was feeling pretty crappy when I went 'cause of tummy AND because I had just talked to my mom on the phone from Canada and she was really crying and I felt so terrible.
But off to work I went, and now I really wish I hadn't bothered. We have a rule in the pub that guys aren't allowed to wear hats - it's a security thing the police asked us to do so that the cctv's can see their faces if anything does happen. So I got sent over to tell a guy, in a group of guys, that he had to take his hat off. So I did that. And first I had one of his friends mimicking everything I said in a really terrible Southern US accent (I get that a lot over here) and saying they couldn't understand me. Then I had another of his friends swear at me. So I kept just saying he had to take it off, or he had to leave. So this guy I work with, Joe, comes over from behind the bar and tells them they can finish their drinks. Now, first of all, Joe just turned 18 and has been working at the pub for about a week and has no right to contradict what I say - ESPECIALLY because there _is_ a no hats rule - it's not just something I am making up! So I said that's not on, he shrugs at me and walks away as this group of guys start really going off on me. One of his friends starts being really agressive at me, swearing and calling me names that are so horrible I can't even use little signs to mask on here.. just awful. So I walked away, and went back to Joe and had a few words for him that I also can't use here. I told him you have to back other people up when you are working with them, especially in a bar where people are drunk and acting stupid. I was actually scared when he just walked away and left me there as the 'bad guy' because this was a group of big, drunk guys and I am a 5'4 girl! So the Joe suddenly starts shouting at me too! Telling me not to tell him what to do, and asking why I'm having a go at him!
So blame it on the bad mom phone call, the aching tummy, the boys calling me names, being made to look stupid, and then my p!$$ ant co-worker yelling at me but I totally lost it and had to run to the bathroom to cry and cry and cry. I don't know why I lost it so bad, I'm not usually that bothered at work.. but once I started crying, I just couldn't stop! I finally thought I was okay, and went back to the bar and everyone was like, "Are you okay? Are you okay?" which of course set me off again and I was a total mess!
One of the worst parts? The guy never took his hat off, and he kept being served all night! Not only was he breaking the pub rule (so we aren't legally allowed to serve him) but he treated me SO BADLY and they just let him stay! I was furious. My manager wasn't there for most of the night, but when he did come down and asked what happened, I explained and he basically didn't give a sh--. He said, "Well, there isn't anything we can do now." and also let them stay, 'til they left on their own. I felt so betrayed, I have never worked in a place where people don't back each other up. Even in my crappier jobs, my managers at least stood up for me.. even if they didn't agree and got mad at me about it later. One of the saving graces of my crap job is that I like the people I work with, but I was so upset yesterday that even after I left work, I was crying and angry when I got home.
And the thing is, when someone was giving a girl I work with attitude earlier in the night, I went and stood beside her.. because that's what I thought people do.. and the guy left her alone. But nobody did anything to try and help me, and Joe even made it worse. And nobody seemed to understand why I was so upset... I'm not crazy, that was a really mean thing!.. right??
I really want to be a boss one day, I don't care what of, just so that I can treat the people that work for me nicely and not have someone bawling in the bathroom.
Bah, that was last night and I am still so mad. I have to go back to work tomorrow but I really just want to quit. If I could afford to, I would... but I really can't. I am looking for a new job, though.
--Steph

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