Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Another Saturday night and .....

I'm back home from the bar, by myself, hanging out with my kitten.

I know I've complained here before about there not being any girls up here, and although I am still complaining, this post isn't really made out of self pity or anything like that. I find the dating scene in this small town very unnerving. I haven't been on a date here in over a year, yet when I was back in Toronto at Christmas time I went on a couple.

I was at the bar/club last weekend and was actually surprised at how many new girls were out. But did I actually go and talk to them? no! I've never been good at meeting girls at bars and honestly I have no idea what to say. I'm generally a friendly, fairly outgoing guy but not at a bar. Mind you most of the girls were probably still in highschool (the legal age up here is 18) or have a boyfriend/brother named Bubba.

Now I definitely know it sounds like I'm complaining that I don't have a girlfriend, but really, I do like being single. The thing that bothers me is that the only opportunity to meet new people (girls) is at the bar and I'm really awful at that. There aren't really an abundance of clubs or activities that I can go do. Of the 70 or so pilots at work, 4 are female and the majority of the other employees are male. I'm not really sure what other things I can do. I've always been able to meet people through friends or meet new people through work or school and I've not been able ot do that.

I'm also at a point in my life where even though I like being single, I am ready for a serious relationship, therefore, I'm fairly picky about who I would like to date and if I can't see it leading to something serious I'm not that interested. I do prefer getting to know a person a little first before getting really serious though.

I do know that eventually I'll move away from here and that I'll live in a place where it is easier for me to meet people and at some time, probably when I least expect I will meet someone really nice. But that being said, do any of you ladies on here have any suggestions? Either to meet new people or things to actually say at a bar so that they don't think I'm just trying to hook up?

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