Tara, you're just like me when I was younger, thinking about other people's feelings to the neglect of my own. I have two life lessons to share with you:
1. Take care of yourself first. That means make sure your own physical, mental and spiritual needs are met first, before worrying about others. It's like they say on airplanes, put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others. Because if you pass out, you can't help anyone!
2. What other people think of us is none of our business. Now, this may seem a little harsh, but for those of us who have a highly developed sense of empathy and who want everyone to think well of us -- we have a tendency to go overboard trying to make a good impression and make sure people like us. But other people can actually sense when we're doing this and unconsciously they can tell they're kinda being manipulated by us to get them to like us. And unconsciously that makes them annoyed. So we end up with the opposite effect. We're trying to please them and instead we're p---ing them off! The only cure for this downward cycle is to make worrying about what other people think of us strictly off limits, the same way trigger foods are strictly off limits for IBS.
So say what you MEAN, MEAN what you say, just don't say it MEAN, and you'll be fine!
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Laura
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