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.... you should admire me!

hee hee.... just kidding. anyway, you know how i feel about it. i still say you need to write out the laundry list and give it to her and throw yourself on her mercy. a) you're paying her, if you want me to be crude about it, so it's her job to take care of this stuff to the best of her ability; b) she seems like a great doctor from what you've told me, so i firmly believe she would want you to tell her everything. it's the only way she's going to have all the puzzle pieces to put together a cohesive pictures for you; c) you know when you're a doctor (and you will be!) you're going to want all the symptoms so you can help. that's why you're becoming a doctor, right!? RIGHT. so give your doctor some credit and treat her as you will want to be treated when you have patients!

i know you feel like you don't want to "trouble" her, or "act dramatic" or anything, but i think you'll be better served by getting a grip on the whole picture. as i've told you, i think there's more going on here and most of your stuff is all related. i don't have to get into that again with you, you know where i stand.

here's the thing: prejudice against various illnesses often starts with the patient. make sure you're not falling into the "i don't want to be a burden, i don't want to complain, maybe i'm just being dramatic and hysterical and wimpy!" trap, please!

listen.... think about it this way. you know we love you and we know you love us.... and i know you are aware of the stuff that we all go through. what would you tell me if i were only planning to tell the doctor some of my symptoms, or worse--- shade the truth on some of them!? you'd yell at me, that's what you'd do! you'd do it nicely, 'cause that's your way, but i think you'd tell me "Jen, you are a great person and you are going through too much. you ought to tell this all to your doctor so that she can help you. you don't deserve to go through all this and your doctor can help you or help you find someone who can! you're great and totally worth taking some attention from that doctor. don't feel bad about it, you deserve to be as healthy as possible!" that's what you'd say to me.... or to Bevrs... or LS.....or Kandee.... or any of your other kajillion friends online. so that's what i say to you: "Tara, my dear, you are a great person and you are going through too much. you ought to tell this all to your doctor so that she can help you. you don't deserve to go through all this and your doctor can help you or help you find someone who can! you're great and totally worth taking some attention from that doctor. don't feel bad about it, you deserve to be as healthy as possible! " and i'd add: "you don't have to be in pain or not get sleep or suffer any of these things you are suffering through, sweets! so.... tell your doctor the whole shebang. suck it up and tell her. you may be amazed at the results!" oh yeah, and: "SMOOCHES!"

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