I am sorry that you are having such a bad time of it and that you are feeling so anxious. I am sending you lots of hugs and hope you are feeling better.
As far as your husband goes, that's a man thing. I have found that the majority of men (including my husband) feel like he does, something bothering you just get over it and don't think about it anymore. They see everything can be resolved by just dealing with it and moving on. For women that is not so easy. We tend to worry and think about things alot.
You have a lot going on and not being able to talk about it doesn't help you. Talk with your Dr. about how you are feeling and what is going on with you lately. Hopefully he will have some helpful answers for you.
Give yourself some TLC and know that we are sending good thoughts your way.