I was just awakened by my screaming neighbors and now I can't get back to sleep because I'm feeling queasy and anxious. I miss the days on this board when I knew I could post something like this and find a friend on the board in the middle of the night - or at least knew I'd wake up to msgs from concerned friends.
There have been many of you who posted deeply personal things on this board including in response to my posts, which have helped me immensely. Also, the humor of many on the boards has kept me going.
Now with the recent drama on this board so many of the people whose input I've valued are saying they're going to leave. I've been here much less myself. I've been on this board (though largely as a "lurker") since it began, and this certainly isn't the first time there have been squabbles and conflicts.
my thought is that we all might take the advice that many others have given. IGNORE posts from people who are bringing you down! We can try to work it out and show people why their behavior is hurtful. THere have been some admirable posts recently in that regard. But if they're not getting anywhere, after a certain point, why not just ignore posters who bring your blood pressure up. We can co-exist relatively peacefully on this board like in real life. I don't expect to like or to want to converse with everyone who lives in my building, my neighborhood, works at my job etc. There are certain people who I just am happier to let walk by without engaging them in conversation.
This is not an attack on any one person - I'd be fine if everyone reading this email tries practicing this. Also the truth is, I"m pretty sure people have practiced this technique with me and I'm fine with that! For a while I really used this board to vent, and my posts were very similar for months and months with no real growth or change shown on my part. I know some people simply stopped responding, and others expressed support. That was actually ok with me. I needed a place to air those feelings, for a time and I understood why some people dropped off from commenting.
Ok, so I think you all are stuck with me a while longer!!! - my two cents.
I'm open to all comments, but for those fanning the flames - don't be surprised if I don't respond!
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