Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: I have a spending problem.......

All compulsive behaviors and addictions such as binge eating, alcohol, chocolate, TV, computers, pornography etc have the same root. They are all fear based. I'll repeat that. You are compulsively spending due to FEAR.

Any time we "act out" compulsively it is an avoidance mechanism. We are avoiding the process of living fully completely embodied in body, mind and spirit in any given moment. Essentially addicts live in terror of feeling their feelings in the moment. The root of all addiciton is the same. We act out to avoid something else.

In your case you gave us a big clue. You are bored at work. I imagine that along with that boredome there are many other unresolved internal conflicts that you are carrying around with you at your job. You mentioned feeling a lot of hostility towards one particular co-worker. You also mentioned feeling deprived because you cannot eat what others are eating and also binge eating at work. There is clearly a lot going on with you.

You are young. I wonder if you have ever considered going to see a counselor.

There are other avenues such as yoga, and meditation.

The root of this compulsive spending is deep inside you. We act compulsively to avoid looking inside ourselves because we think the pain is too much to bear so we run away and find any diversion.

You may be overspending to deal with feelings of deprivation because of IBS. There is a void inside you and you are trying to fill it.

Nothing outside you can fill that void.

Find a spiritual teacher, guide or counselor to help you deal more productively with inner conflict.

I am 56 years old and believe me I DO understand your pain.
Ackowledge the pain and take some constructive action.

12 step programs can be very useful.

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