Just wanted to send big hugs to all you ladies. I know exactly what you're going through. Never feel obligated to participate in something if you're not comfortable. Baby showers are optional!! And feel free to tell people not to give you advice/not to make comments/not to tell you about their pregnancies/etc. The day before my egg retrieval for IVF my brother called to say he and my SIL were expecting...and they didn't even try. I cried my eyes out for an hour. And I told them I didn't want to hear a single detail about their pregnancy until I was ready to handle it. And I stuck to that. I didn't hear a word until I was able to tell them a few months later that I was expecting. Unless you've been through it you just don't understand what emotional and physical stress it is. I've read many places that it is comparable to losing a loved one. And I agree. You almost feel a sense of loss...a feeling of what might not be. Just know you're not alone. There is hope. And there are lots of things that doctors can do for you. Ignore people that tell you to relax (worst advice ever!!!). And just focus on yourself. And continue to write and vent. It's such a big help. Feel free to look at my old posts from my infertility journey for some encouragement. It was a long road, but I made it. And now I'm eagerly anticipating my little miracle in less than 5 weeks. Stay strong. There is hope!
-------------------- ~Mary
Had surgery for rectal prolapse in Sept. '06 and feeling good now! Loving life with our IVF miracle #1.
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