He sounds like a bastard to me. I am sorry, but you should demand to be treated right. If he has never apologised properly then tell him how you're feeling. You could've died. Blood in the urine is serious.
Maybe suggest some counselling for the two of you. It's very hard to move on from something like that unless the party in the wrong acknowledges they were wrong and doesn't do it again.
It's obvious this still hurts you and I don't think your husband takes it seriously enough. Don't let yourself be treated like that. Just because a guy doesn't physically hurt you doesn't mean he isn't abusing you emotionally.
As for me...the majority of insults I get from family is usually when they are frustrated.
"You can go out when you WANT to go".
"We can't go there because (my name) needs a toilet!"
"We're going to the beach on the weekend. And DON'T YOU DARE RUIN ANYTHING!!! Take some immodium!!!"
But the one that hurts the worst is that I have a little dog I adopted from a shelter and I love the little guy very much. The vets is a fair way away where the shelter gets their work done for a discount. To take him there(I have before) is a looooooong car trip and it stresses me and him out, because I don't have a loo and I am not stable yet. Well, he needs to go to the vet tomorrow and I could wait a few days for me to stabilize but it would mean he would miss out on his test, and I don't want him to miss out on account of me. Well my brother said he'd take him in and that's cool, as I have a Dr's appointment too that day but I just know that other family members will bring it up later and say stuff like "You can't love your dog too much if you have to get someone else to take him to the vet" etc etc...
The thing is I want to do things like take acting/music/art classes and I am hoping I stabilize soon so I can work(I also have CFS and Asthma) but it's hard because I can't seem to get well enough to learn skills to get me a job and meanwhile the family just does not get it. They say stuff like "Oh I get nervous too!" I am not bloody nervous! It's my bowel!
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