not that I smoke pot now but as a stupid 21 yr old i tried it. Even know you might think it will relax you some it has the opposite results paronoid. People prone to anxiety shouldnt try that as an option. However, I do take Ativan which is another form of Zanax and I take a half at night when my IBS flares and I cant fall alseep or if my mind keeps going (like you example of OCD). Try that first since it is an anti anxiety made for relaxation.
As far as the wife goes, I have read your posts before and it seems like she is alittle insensitive to your situation. Perhaps you should have her read heathers book. Maybe that will give her some insight of what you go through on a daily basis. Helped with my hubby.
Hugs** you will get through this
-------------------- IBS-C gas, bloating and acid reflux
Babies is the plan for 2008!!Hope this IBS cooperates.