Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: Back from Scotland, saying hi to all, ex advice needed...

I can't say it much better than that! I happened to be the one that left but it's still VERY hard. I found out later that he'd cheated on me. Interestingly enough, finding out after the fact, doesn't make dealing with it any easier...even after moving on. I was bitter for too long. I've just finally found a way to forgive and it's amazing how much easier life is now.

I'm sure your ex will have regrets but you can't live hoping for that. I'm sure my ex did, too but he'd never let me know that. It's a process that takes time and it'll be hard to realize until things start changing but it happened for a reason. A good reason. If I hadn't left my ex, I wouldn't have accomplished many of the things I have and now I have a truly loving relationship with my husband of two years and a beautiful baby girl that would never have existed if I were still married to ex-DH.

You will see little by little, how life will take an upswing. It may take some time. It may take a lot of time. I was divorced for 4 years before meeting my husband...when I'd finally wiped my hands clean of men!

I wish your heart some peace. Do everything you can to focus on yourself...your health (body and mind) and those sweet children of yours and try to give as little energy as possible to thinking about him or her or why or what.

Sending HUGE HUGS your way.
Lots of love and peace,
Lauren

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Flipada - IBS-C "It's a gas, gas, gas"
**Lauren**

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