Re: People Pleasers?
10/15/07 01:40 PM
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Stephie
Reged: 03/10/04
Posts: 2696
Loc: Vancouver, Canada
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Hey Nugget,
I know exactly how you feel because I am the same way. For me, I do tend to say "no" sometimes because my anxiety over doing whatever it is I am being asked to do is too much, but then I suffer with feeling really guilty and going back and forth about it.
I am seeing a counsellor now who has called me on this quite a bit and says that it is really destructive behaviour, but I still haven't come up with very many concrete ways to get around this.
I have tried to just be more assertive with people and stuff, but that part of me does really want to avoid disappointing anyone or causing conflict.
If I figure out a way to help let it go, I'll definitely let you know!!
In the meantime, good luck and know we're here for you!
Steph
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