Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Need advice- wedding or elope?

Well, my BF & I have finally decided to get married after being together for 3 years! He wasn't going to tell me, but I wormed it out of him that he is going to formally propose soon, but won't tell me when. That way I'll still be somewhat surprised. I'm really excited! I even got to help choose my ring...I picked out several that I like but I don't know which one he got.

My problem is this, should we have a wedding or elope w/just a few close friends & family? I've been married before, & some of my relatives are still deeply attached to my ex, they talk about him everytime I see them! And I don't really get along w/the majority of my family. I'm afraid if we have an actual wedding, one of my idiot relatives is going to screw it up by causing a scene. I close to my parents, siblings, & one aunt, but I really don't want the rest of them in attendance! On the other hand, if I have a wedding & don't invite them, I'll never hear the end of it!!

I've got plenty of time to decide, but it's something that's really bothering me & I'd like to figure out how to handle it asap. Has anyone else dealt with similar issues, and how did you handle it?

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IBS-A...I can never make up my mind

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