Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: Need Advice on Husband

I had the same thing before I got pregnant. And we weren't hurting money-wise, I think it's just something guys worry about because they feel they are "the provider", and if their wives DO work (I work part time, full time before the baby), they know that it's a possibility their career will be put on hold after babies, and they will be the only ones making money.
BUT---as I explained to my husband, we can't put our lives on hold until we think it's the "right" time. Because there will always be something else that isn't perfect, or ideal...and things have a way of working out if you want them to.
I told him I wasn't getting any younger (30 when I had my daughter Mia, our first), and our PARENTS weren't getting younger.
We had to have the conversation several times. What ended up working for me, was just before we were about to have "alone time" one night, I said "let's not use protection". Shocked the crap out of him, and he didn't think it was the right way to go, but looking back it really was. I had to just go for it, you know? Trust me---he has no regrets.

Maybe you can sit down and look at a budget with him if that will make him feel better, and have a long-term plan set up.

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