Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: Question about a personal issues. Adults eyes only.

Well, admittedly this hasn't been so much of a problem until just the last few months.. Back in January Ben decided to try and quite smoking and that's kinda when it started. He was nic fitting and stressed out alot more from it and wasn't interested in sex for about.. two months.. Then it continued for another month because we work completly opposite shifts so we didn't see eachother for more than an hour a day if that... and that was usualy around 2am when I had to get up at 6am..

It may sound like I'm just making excuses, but it wasn't always a concern. Basicly there are only maybe a couple hours a week where we have time and are together and then there is the stress that if we don't do it right at that moment, then it won't happen for another week...That for me adds pressure and makes it harder to relax.. Plus.. Is it so bad that I don't want to be the one that makes the first moves all the time.??

I have talked to him about it and he completly understands. I got him to start smoking again just to level him out a bit until after the wedding and honeymoon when things are less stressful and then he can try quitting again and so far it's been a good thing. He isn't snapping at me anymore or being moody which is good... Since he starting smoking again his drive is back but now.. Now I have to find that inner nympho again haha... I do love him and I'm sure things will work out eventually it's just it was so hard to want to be sexy or be with him intimately when he would come home and take his work stress out on me.. I know I have to remember that it's just yelling in general not yelling at me but after so much negetivity it's kinda hard to let that go... Does that make any sense at all?

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