I have always had a lower sex drive than my spouse, but at the beginning (pre-marriage and the first years before kids), it was much higher than now. I think I have partly fallen into that rut that so many moms get into about not being able to separate from mom to "sex slave" right after you've tucked the kiddies in bed. LOL  Whenever my husband and I are away (which is rare), I am so much more relaxed and feel ready and willing. Add to this though that I don't have the PHYSICAL drive so much either...now exacerbated by the AD that I am taking.
If you are just getting married, yes, it is a conern that your drive is low now for intimacy b/c you are just starting out and I would imagine that research confirms that it is likely to decrease, not increase from here on in. My husband and I have had MANY arguments and discussions about this and it has taken a toll at times on our relationship b/c he feels "unwanted" or "less of a man" shall I say when I keep refusing. We are at the point where we have agreed to disagree about how often we should have relations and come to the realization that his libido will always be higher than mine. But I try to push myself to be involved as much as possible and then I do enjoy it. I do wish that it was a more natural urge (but at this point the AD is working so well, I don't want to stop it either).
Anyway, I've rambled on about myself. My point is that I agree with what the others have said about intimicy being an extremely important part of a marriage, however, there is a big difference between a diminished drive and one that is non-existent. You need to see where you fall on that range and make sure that you "lust" for the man you will be marrying at least some of the time. I also agree that you need to talk to him about this and talk to your doc. Is it your IBS that is interfering? If so, your fiance should be completely understanding of that....then your role would be to take advantage of the times when your belly IS behaving. Good luck with the situation. I know from experience it is not an easy one to tackle. 
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