Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: I have a lot going on..

Dear Kerrie,
My heart just breaks when I read what all you are going through. I feel for you and your husband because I have suffered through a very serious depression and breakdown and it is the most painful thing a person can go through. It is so hard to explain to people who've never been through this, but it feels like you are just a shell----you feel like you're in this deep, dark tunnel that you cannot crawl out of. Nothing that you've enjoyed in the past gives you any pleasure and you retreat further and further away from the ones you love. In my case, I was pleading with my husband to help me, but he didn't realize the seriousness of what I was going through until it was almost too late. I commend you for recognizing that there was a problem with Brad (curse that damm doctor who didn't!!!) and for reaching out to get him help when he needed it. Although he may not be able to show you much, if any, love and affection, you just being there and having him in a safe environment where he is getting the proper medical care is exactly what he needs. Just be there for him, hold his hand, and tell him how much you love him. And although I know you need the old Brad back and want it to happen quickly, this is usually a slow process of healing. (If he's on an anti-depressant, do not be discouraged if it doesn't seem to be working right away. Many times they take several months for you to notice a difference.) I do not mean to discourage you in any way, just to let you know that you are doing the right thing and that he needs you just to be there. When I was going through this, I was terrified of being left alone. As long as my husband or a friend was by my side, I felt like I had my head above water. Just give him that little bit of rope to hang on to and he will gradually be back to his usual self. I will keep the two of you in my prayers. God bless you,
Beaglelover P.S> A word of advice to you and others who've never experienced anything like this. The worst thing you can do in this case is to tell someone to "snap out of it." I had several people tell me this, and that just made me feel worse. Depression is a chemical imbalance, and a person can't snap out of it any easier than they could snap out of diabetes or high blood pressure. Telling a person that only makes them feel totally helpless and like a complete failure. If they could snap out of it, they would!

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