Ok. Here's the new thread. I named it a little more aptly. And it probably won't be a really long one like last time...at least not for a while.
So, here's the scoop on where we're at. AF did start yesterday. I'm excited that it started on it's own this time...which means the drugs worked. But it turns out that I'm really not our main problem now. I am annovulatory. But with drugs and with age that will get better. There is a lot that doctors can do for women. And my RE said it usually corrects itself as you get older. The real issue now is DH. I wish we would have found this out sooner. His count and motility are low, but not super horrible. But morphology is really bad...pretty much 0% normal. And there isn't much you can do about that...it's genetic. It may never improve. So, given our situation, we are moving on to injectables and IVF (with ICSI - inject one sperm directly into the egg)...as I expected. And there is a good chance we will always have to do IVF to get pg The tough part for me is the waiting now. For IVF doctors like you to be on bc 1 month before the stimulating cycle. But we are going to Spain at the end of May. So we have to wait another month yet. I am kind of glad that I get to take it easy this month...NO DRUGS! Then in May I'll take bc, and DH will do another s/a. And we'll start the IVF process around June 20 (we also have to work around my doctor's vacation...he's going out of state for his daughter's wedding at the end of June...that's why we have to wait until then...just before he leaves we'll start injections, then continue the process when he gets back). It's kind of tough to accept that the absolute soonest I'll be pg now is July. That seems so far away. But at least I know what's going on now. And I can focus on other things for a while. It will be a nice mental break. And we are planning on telling our families now. Since we're doing inejctions and IVF we can't really hide stuff anymore, and we need the support. That will be a big burden off my shoulders too...to not have to keep such a big secret from everyone. We do have some big decisions to make yet...mostly about the unused embryos...do we freeze them and make sure that we use them all up at some point? Or put them up for adoption for couples that can't do it on their own for physical or financial reasons? I don't think we could opt to destroy them...just not what we believe.
Now I need to figure out what to do with the other aspects of my life in the meantime...mostly my job. I really hate my job right now. I was sticking with it for a bit in case I got pg. Then I knew I would just work until I had the baby and then be a stay-at-home mom. Now that I know I have at least a few months b/f getting pg I think it's time to move on to something else. Even if it's just temporary. I would love something I could do from home that is really flexible for when I do start treatments and need to go to the RE regularly to be monitored and when I do the IVF. I have a lot of thinking and researching to do. Anyone have any ideas of work from home jobs? Something that is not home sales...I would be horrible at trying to sell things.
Well, that's the scoop. Just wanted to give you the details and ask for your prayers. DH is having a hard time with this since he is the main reason we need to go this route. I told him I still love him the same, I don't blame him, and it's not his fault. But it's still tough. Since I'm on hold for a while I probably won't have much to post on this topic. I'll pick it back up when things start again. For now, good luck to everyone else ttc.
-------------------- ~Mary
Had surgery for rectal prolapse in Sept. '06 and feeling good now! Loving life with our IVF miracle #1.
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The tough part for me is the waiting now. For IVF doctors like you to be on bc 1 month before the stimulating cycle. But we are going to Spain at the end of May. So we have to wait another month yet. I am kind of glad that I get to take it easy this month...NO DRUGS! Then in May I'll take bc, and DH will do another s/a. And we'll start the IVF process around June 20 (we also have to work around my doctor's vacation...he's going out of state for his daughter's wedding at the end of June...that's why we have to wait until then...just before he leaves we'll start injections, then continue the process when he gets back). It's kind of tough to accept that the absolute soonest I'll be pg now is July. That seems so far away. But at least I know what's going on now. And I can focus on other things for a while. It will be a nice mental break. And we are planning on telling our families now. Since we're doing inejctions and IVF we can't really hide stuff anymore, and we need the support. That will be a big burden off my shoulders too...to not have to keep such a big secret from everyone. We do have some big decisions to make yet...mostly about the unused embryos...do we freeze them and make sure that we use them all up at some point? Or put them up for adoption for couples that can't do it on their own for physical or financial reasons? I don't think we could opt to destroy them...just not what we believe.
