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Please be careful. Online dating can be wonderful & many people are happily married b/c of it. BUT...it can also be very dangerous. This is not meant to scare you or stop you from chatting w/your guy friend. It's just an example of things we women (and men too) need to be aware of so we can make informed decisions & not place ourselves in harms way. Please take my aunt's story to heart.

My aunt met a man online, also using a webcam. After talking online for about 2 wks, they decided to meet. He only lived 4 hrs away so she drove to where he was. They met at the local mall & decided it was true love. She was happy, he was the man of her dreams. He said she made him the luckiest man alive, etc. Two wks later they got married. Less than a wk after that she found out, the hard way, that he was bipolar, suffered from delusions & post traumatic stress disorder. He hadn't told her anything about that & neither had his family (she met his parents & 2 adult sons). My aunt is very religious & wanted to save her marriage. She managed to stay with him for several mths, during which time he frequently stopped taking his med & became abusive. But one night he slapped her across the face, leaving a huge bruise. I'm surprised he didn't break her jaw, he's a big guy. She had to have him arrested, & he ended up being committed to a mental hospital again (he'd been in one shortly before they got married but she didn't know that until after the wedding). He also spent all of her money while she was at work, leaving her bankrupt. So now she is alone, has no money & no home, lives w/my parents, and is miserable.

Again, I'm not saying to stop talking to your friend but PLEASE be careful. And I'm sure you're not going to marry him right after you meet him, like my aunt did, foolishly. But the point of my post is simply to remind you that people aren't always what they seem. Neither this man nor his family told my aunt the truth, they all misled her until AFTER she married him. You can't trust anyone nowadays, but especially someone you've only known for a short while. When you decide to meet your friend, don't go alone. And try to find out as much as you can about him before you get too involved. I hope things turn out well for you & you live happily ever, whatever decision you make!

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