You are very wise to think this all through.
First let me get done with the vomiting thing. I have OCD and my biggest obsession/terror/loathing/fear/disgust/you get the idea is vomiting and illnesses. I think babies do spit up for a reason. It's to get us used to it. It happens, and it is gross, but throwing up is part of parenting. And every single time, I've gotten through it fine. Unpleasant, yes, but I got through it. It's somehow different when it's your own kid. It's one of those things that you can learn to get used to. And if you can get used to this,... well, you can get used to ANYTHING.
Second, the busy part. Yep. You have to ask yourself if you like your lifestyle the way it is, or are you rEALLY willing to change. Children change your lifestyle drastically. Not necessarily for the worse, but definitely a total 180. They become your priority. So you do family things instead of couple things. You have play dates, and family get togethers with friends, and babysitters for dates.
As for Dad staying home, have no fear. If you think your husband will be a good father, chances are, he will be. A friend of mine is in the exact situation you are in - her husband is staying home. Guess what? He has a whole new respect for parenting, and "stay at home" duties.
And I think it was hoho who said that children need very little. Good food, adequate clothes, loving parents and your time. Did I mention toys???? LOL. Don't be surprised though - they do cost a LOT of money.
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Re: All very valid considerations....
