Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: Advice about children (long post)!!

I can understand feeling selfish--part of why my husband and I waited 3+ years (our first is due in less than a month) was because we wanted time to take nice, expensive vacations, spend time with friends, and, well...play! So we did that and here we are. Before we started trying, I worried because we are ahead of most of our friends in terms of marriage and children---meaning, we'll be the only ones in our close group of friends with kids, probably for 2 years at least. Also, I am a person who really likes my alone time, really likes to shop, really likes to go to the spa and pamper myself, and having children will change all that. But I don't know...one day I just decided that I wanted a family and was willing to make those changes. I admit when I FIRST got pregnant, I was stressed a bit about how much things would change, and wondering if I should have waited more. But that feeling passed pretty quickly, and now I can't wait. I'm ready for this stage of my life. ( I will turn 30 in October).

I am also lucky in that my husband has a really good, well paying job, and that I can work part time after my 4 month maternity leave without us struggling financially. That has made things really easy for us. I also have the support of both of our families.

It sounds to me, like you're not quite ready. Not that you won't EVER be ready, but when you are ready, you'll recognize that you have some doubts, and some concerns, but that they aren't enough to stop you from starting a family because you just want it that badly. Don't use your age as a guideline either---yeah, waiting until 40 makes it more difficult physically, but you're 10 years from that! And really a lot can change in even a year. When I first told my husband I wanted us to start trying...I really threw him for a loop. But it didn't take long for him to be on the same page as me, and he is completely excited to be a father.

Oh and by the way---I don't like vomit either. I was lucky to only puke about 5 times when I had morning sickness, but when other people puke? Forget it! My husband knows that will be his area. (I can't even pick up dog puke). As for kids getting sick...yeah, that happens. But I think by that time, you'll be over that. Once you have kids, I have a feeling that a lot of your worries will seem insignificant. You just have to get to the place where you're ready to deal with it all. Good luck!

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