I don't know how you did this
08/06/06 01:36 PM
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Loc: West Orange, NJ (IBS-D)
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I just subscribed her to the Overeaters' Anonymous' magazine. I'm sure that will make her mad and she may just throw it away, but I have to try!
In its FAQs, OA states unequivocally:
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If I have friends or family members who need OA, will you send them information?
To respect OA's principles of anonymity and "attraction rather than promotion," the WSO cannot send material to anyone other than the person making the request. You may, of course, share OA information and your personal experience in OA with those you care about. Perhaps with your encouragement, they will choose to find help through OA or through some other method.
OA may be just what your mother needs, but it's more than likely that if you keep "surprising" her with it, she'll simply dig in her heels and refuse to have anything to do with it. And "trapping" her at an OA meeting sounds cruel, both to her and to the other people at the meeting.
I think speaking to her doctor is an excellent idea. I also strongly urge you to do this: Go to www.oa.org. About 1 screen down on the left, you'll find the following:
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Concerned family members of compulsive eaters can receive an information packet from the WSO upon request to info@oa.org
See what OA itself has to say about what you can do to help.
The bottom line is that you cannot force your mother to do anything. You can, however, make yourself nuts trying. The literature you get from OA may contain an O-Anon meeting near you which you should consider attending. If there isn't an O-Anon meeting near you, look for an Open OA meeting you can attend.
I would also urge you to remember that encountering cancer in your own life after you've lost a parent to it is more terrifying than most people can imagine. Your mother might benefit from seeing a counselor or support group for this issue - and her doctor might be able to advise you on this - but again you can only suggest, you cannot force.
I wish your mother and you all the best.
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[Research tells us fourteen out of any ten individuals likes chocolate. - Sandra Boynton]
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