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My BIL's wedding was this weekend, i had a house full of my dh's family and it was insanely hot/humid outside this whole weekend! My dh's family intimidates me anyway,but add heat/humidty,stress and anxiety.It was a bad weekend for me. The tavern that wedding was held at had no air conditioning and i had already had a sinus headache to begin with.I toughed it out, the whole ceremony lasted less than 5 minutes(seriously).What upset me the most was seeing the little girl they chose over my daughter as the flower girl(because i was told by the bride that formal gowns were already ordered), the little girl was wearing a dress that looked like an everyday sundress you can purchase at Goodwill or a Thrift store, the color of it didn't even match the bridesmaids formal gowns.
So i keep my feelings in check, trying to be the bigger person and go to congratulate the bride/groom, and was completely ignored.Talk about humiliating, i don't know what the bride told her friends/family about me but i was given dirty looks thru the whole evening by them and not one of them would talk to me.The heat/humidity and overwhelming feeling of unwelcomeness had me on the verge of tears.I went to my car after the ceremony to sit in the a/c to cool off and get my emotions in check, then my dh stormed over to the car to start yelling at me that if i was going to be a B**** i could just leave and he would catch a ride with someone else. When i tried to explain i was just cooling off and how i was being treated he just snapped and said "well, what the F*** am i supposed to do about it?". Well, that did it, to avoid crying infront of everyone i just left. SOBBED my eyes out all the way home, with all that happened i ended up with a nice IBS flare up. Dh's mother and sisters are "annoyed" with me because they don't understand IBS at all, and are " tired of her being sick all the time" their exact words!
If i ever wanted to run away and never come back, Saturday night was the time. It was just not a good weekend at all, and my inlaws make me feel like i'm some kind of antisocial freak who never wants to leave the house.
How does anyone handle this kind of stress without flare-ups??? I'm just an emotional wreck this weekend!

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