Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Hee hee, you are TOTALLY right.

It isn't what I want to hear,thats ok too... and I do have my ideas, but there is certainly no way in HELL I would bring Kayleigh into anything for eons, at least 6 months. No way no how. I am thinking of her needs first, don't you even think about worrying about that.

I do NOT want Trevor to even be AWARE of it if I was to go on a date. He has told me recently, however, that he wants me to get out there and date, and he'd be fine with me introducing a guy to his kid, as long as he treats us both well. I said "What, you actually want someone to treat me good?" and he said absolutely, he wants to see me happy in a relationship that's good for me.

That being said, I know there's anger there in him still and if I did date this guy, i would keep it from Trevor a while because I wouldn't want him to have ammo against me in court. I'm planning on starting divorce proceedings soon if we can.My dad has offered to fund it and we pay him back. And I am documenting EVERYTHING Trevor says to have on hand just in case.

Of course, if I did date this guy, then I guess it makes my argument about trevor cheating null and void. He's been good and paid everything he needed to on time for us, and has been very there for his daughter, even bringing her to work and taking her at 4:30 Am every day so I can work.I've never really doubted his dedication to his daughter, I've just sometimes questioned his maturity in thinking things through. I think now that most of the insanity has subsided with us, he will be a devoted and good dad, albeit slightly less than before.

I am amazed that things got as ugly as it did with us but I feel very at peace with the whole thing.....not because of this new interest, but because my dad came up for a week and butted heads with me on everything I defended trevor for, and FORCED me to see where trevor really is. It's not worth it for me to be angry. it's only worth it for me to make sure he pays child support, that we have a fair agreement, and that MY happiness is paramount.

By the way...
Maybe it's rose colored glasses but I do wear them a lot. I am one of those girls who sometimes learns best the hard way.

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