Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | I know Ive said this before...

but being the age I am and without any experience in any situation even half as complicated as this, I cant really give any great advice...but all I want tor reassure you is...that in my opinion anyways...YOU HAD EVERY RIGHT TO TALK TO HIS MOTHER...if like you say shes been a confidant for years and with everything thats happened...and you so desperately needing to talk to someone about it...I completely understand you telling her. And if Im right....its not like you went over said 'your sons an alcoholic gambling porn addict' is it?? You told her your concerns in a way that was respectful to the fact that shes his mother and Im sure she understood that. She after all, is the only other woman in his life to know him any better...and ofcourse I can understand why its her you would turn to. YOU HAVE NOTHING TO FEEL GUILTY ABOUT. She should be the one feeling bad for breaking your confidance really, but then I can understand her needing to talk with her son. He shouldnt have thrown that back in your face like that...and I WISH he would understand how AMAZING you are dealing with all of this. You have made huge steps in making appointments to see counsellors/lawyers/pastors....they're not easy things to do...but you have dealt with this in a sensible, reasonable and mature manner and I think YOU have every right to be upset NOT HIM. Let him cool down...I hope he doesnt hold this against you...if he does...then more fool him. He is being UNBELIEVEABLY SELFISH over this whole situation....whereas you have shown yourself to be a STRONG woman who wont be treated like a piece of c***

Im praying he comes to his senses sometime and realises just what a fabulous person hes losing here...cos you DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER.

Stay strong....sending lots of hugs.

(((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))

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Natalie

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