Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | I agree 100% with Ashley...

Hi Shannon,

I have been reading all your posts, and my heart is really going out to you. It sounds like you in an absolutely awful situation that I cannot even begin to appreciate the extent of. I have been thinking of you a lot lately, and I didn't even know what to say but I thought I would say that I am here to support you.
I also wanted to say, though, that I agree with Ashely and the others that have said: Kick. Him. Out.!!
He needs to go! The fact that his brother or whatever isn't ready for him to move in and his mom won't have him is *his* problem. He made it a problem for himself alone when he put all this crap on you and broke the vows that he made to you by lusting after a girl who in underage (I know it's 14 in Canada, but that's only with parental consent as far as I know for sexual acts and I am pretty sure they aren't about to consent to any of that!).
If he has to sleep in a motel, let him. If he has to beg another friend, sleep on someone's floor, sleep in his car, sleep *anywhere else*, that is for him to sort out.
If I would you, I would tell him you are lawyering up, kick him out and change the locks. And until he is properly evaluated psychologically, I would only give him supervised visits to your daughter.
My sisters best friend is going through something similar and has been for *years* now, and that's what I don't want for you! She has been saying for that long that eventually, she'll kick him out.. Now he does have some big time mental problems that have come out in the last few years that were *never* apparent in the first.. gosh, 15 years.. of their relationship. Now he goes to pick their daughter up cough syrup, and doesn't come back until 4 days later.
Point is, my sisters friend is completely destroyed by this. She has let it consume her life, when she should have just cut him off when all the BS started. Don't let his antics ruin who you are as a person. There are so many *good* men out there, who don't look at young girl pornography, who don't keep secrets and disrespect their families and the people who love them.

You deserve SO MUCH BETTER than this, and the sooner you get him out the door the closer you will be to finding a better life for yourself and your daughter.

I don't want to sound insensitive, I know that doing that may possibly be the hardest thing you will ever have to do but I do believe it will be worth it.

You are still in my thoughts, and we're all here for you!
**hugs**
Steph

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