Shannon, I have been following your situation, and although I have been unable to post lately because something's been wrong with my computer, I have been thinking of you a lot and praying that you and your husband will work things out.
I have been married for almost 26 years, and the two of us have been through some really rough times when I thought the marriage was over. But somehow---by the grace of God---we always managed to work it out.
I just pray that the lines of communication will be opened for the two of you, and that you will be able to work through this. For your daughter's sake, I hope you can do that.
If you really love this guy, I'd work as hard as I could to make it work out. Sometimes when we think we've hit rock bottom, we gather the strength to climb our way out of the hole, and during the process, we become stronger because of it. It can happen!
I'm glad that you are getting counseling. Hopefully, your husband will open up to you soon, and the two of you can work through this. If he is unwilling, you will be fine. You are a strong person, and you will make it through this.
I'll continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers. You have us here to lean on.