Reged: 03/02/06
Posts: 1026
Loc: West Michigan, USA
Shannon, Sorry to say but you'd be surprised what men can "live with". Most men are better able to compartmentalize their feelings. They can be happy with you, forget about you when they're with another and be happy with the other one, too. Women are much too emotional to be able to handle it well, at least not for long!
I was CERTAIN my ex wouldn't cheat. First off, he "never cheated" on his previous girlfriend of 8 years and then "didn't date much" till he met me. Secondly, I thought he was too lazy to go through all the trouble to find someone out of town. We lived in a small town and had mutual friends. I thought he would have had to go out of town to do that.
What I found out was that most people won't tell you anything unless they can prove it without a doubt. So, while others may have suspicions, they don't usually share because they might be wrong.
I later found out he slept with one of my best friends...
You don't ever really KNOW a person. Sad to say but true. You can know a lot...but not everything they're truly capable of. I know this is a downer and I'm not saying that this applies to your husband but think about how many people were SURE their spouse wouldn't cheat and then were later shocked. How bout the women that find out their husband is a murderer, child molester or rapist...I'm guessing none of them had a clue that their husband/boyfriend would be capable of that.
You need to take steps to protect yourself and your child. As others have said, get a lawyer. If things end up getting better, you don't have to go through with a divorce. But you might be sorry later that you weren't proactive.
And please, please don't sleep with him anymore without protection! Please.
I'm sending big hugs your way. Lauren
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**Lauren**
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