I'm sooo not trying to put you down Shannon, but keeping a clean and peaceful house for your husband sounds like something I read in a 1950's home economics book. You work all day too, and you get tired. Shouldn't he pitch in and clean too? Maybe he needs a taste of his own medicine. What would he do if you were the one being selfish and making unilateral life changing decisions. Is it possible he thinks you're "too nice" to put your foot down and make some of your own demands?