you're not the only one bad with that stuff, I am too. I never know what to say or do, and end up feeling really uncomfortable. When my uncle (who I didn't know well) was dying of cancer, my mom basically forced us to go see him, and give him a hug. He was not even aware of anything and barely looked like himself. In hindsight I'm glad I went but at the time I could barely handle it. Even now when I go to funerals I'm very uncomfortable, and I don't know why. Don't feel guilty, you're just human, and death and dying is a really tough subject for anyone.