I post on a teaching board and I got ripped to shreds by about 9 people over this, so I was sensitive yesterday.
My mom actually bragged to my sister that she's a better grandparent after that. She only babysits on her terms, and only after I beg. I try to avoid asking her now. She never offers to take kayleigh, only sees her once every couple months even though she's 1/2 hour away, etc. She is a good grandma but seriously? Better than MIL? Not a chance in hell. And she's nowhere as good a mother as MIL is to me. I'm so thankful for her.
I had gotten to a point where I had no more anger at my mother. now, I'm p'd off all over agian. I don't want to see her next weekend. It might get ugly.