First of all, my mom is jealous of my mother in law for every reason you can imagine. She's married, she's happy, she gives kayleigh attention several times a week, she's not working, she's this and that, she and I have a far better relationship. She probably was mad that it happened to MIL and not to her because it takes attention away form my mother, that's my mom. She's disgustingly self absorbed. She thinks I'm a drama queen, and I know I can be dramatic, but always at the right times. My mom is just a stone. She has no emotion about anything that isn't directly related to proving how "great" she is. She doesn't get revved up about anything I say, unless it has to do with making HER look good/bad/special. 
Anyhow, I won't go there, because I've been through therapy to get to the point I'm at of saying OH WELL, THAT'S HER AND I AM NOT CHAINED TO HER-she can't control me.
Second question-MIL left Kayleigh in the car because she thought she'd be far less than 8 minutes, and she has a low car, is incredibly clumsy at getting the carseat snapped in+out, and she has a bad back and puts it out on a weekly basis....so thought it'd be faster. She double checked with Kayleigh that kayleigh would be emotionally OK, and locked the doors to keep her safely inside. At a bank where there'd be security everywhere. It was the first time she had EVER done that, and I promise you the last time she or I ever will.:(
I admit, I do occasionally feel like I have to leave Kay in the car- when I'm getting groceries into the house and she's fast asleep, or when I have to haul something in and she's fast asleep, or if I need to get Tums at the store and nobody's there in line and she's fast asleep...etc...
I try to use very good judgment, but sometimes I have GOT TO do this, because Trevor works nights and weekends and we have to usually parent alone! We are barely capable of doing anything as a family most days.That's another very big reason we only have ONE child right now-it's just plain safer! I don't know how single parents without sitters survive!!
As far as getting gas goes, I either gas up when she's not with me or I use debit on the pump. But hey, I have to take the garbage to the curb when we're together alone, and I have to warm up the car in the mornings when it's frigid cold before taking her to MIL's sometimes...and jeepers, I have IBS and she can't sit in the bathroom with me....you know? We could split hairs till there's nothing left, but the thing is you just cannot watch them 100% of the time, unless youre a millionaire with 2 nannies or something. I do my best as a parent.
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Keep on keepin' on...
Edited by Shannon :) (04/08/06 11:17 PM)
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Answering your 2 questions:
