I just read through this whole thread and I think it's absolutely rotten the way your boyfriend is reacting. On the one hand, I agree that most people who don't have a chronic illness will never be able to understand and be able to properly empathise with what we are going through (or what you seem to be going through on a few counts!) and that a lot of times, men just want to be able to fix things. I guess it's possible that he figures if he feels groggy, and feels better after going for a run than that's how it should be with you too... BUT (but!but!but!) the other stuff, about passing it off with the "not the most compassionate person" thing and all that, that's ridiculous. You can't notice something bad about yourself and then just use that as an excuse! If you recognise it, that means you should be ready to CHANGE it! The comment about him not touching you, and looking at you like you've got bugs on you really bothered me. There is not being empathetic, and then there is just being cruel... If your boyfriend looks at you like that, how can you have intimacy and comfort and and the warm and fuzzy stuff that can help you get through the times that aren't so good? I do want to give him a proper smack in the head, because I've seen pics of you and you are very lovely and there is no reason you should have anyone looking at you like that!
I'm glad that you've got your test results and you can start trying to make plans or whatever the next step is and hopefully start to feel better! Keep us updated, I'll be checking in to see how you are doing!
**loads of hugs** Steph
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