Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Ok wise ones, SERIOUS advice needed (for a friend) -LONG

One of my oldest friends is having major relationship trouble and it's been going on for a while now. I have heard about it hundreds of times (so has Tommy) and I am at a loss at what to say anymore.

Basically, she lives in a city far from home and is not happy there, she moved there for school, ended up meeting this guy and she stayed and they moved in together.

Fast forward a few years. They aren't married (were supposed to but she called the wedding off). They own a home together and she just had a baby boy 3 months ago.

The problem is that he is a cop, works all the time, is super neglectful and they can't ever communicate about any of their problems. He always makes her look like she's wrong.

With a 3 month old, he has told her that he is going away on a course for 1 week to some Texas Spring break place. He has been dieting and tanning and it looks like he's def planning on cheating on her. She has gained 20 extra lbs from baby weight and he hasn't gobe anywhere near her since the baby has been born.

This isn't their only issue, she had an affair on him too (which he doesn't know about). It wasn't at all about sex (he was practically impotent. It was all about her needing some emotional contact and attention since she's neglected so much. I don't judge her and please don't either. I am begging her (and her family and friends are too) to leave him.

She's now staying with her parents in her home town (13 hours away from him) and she doesn't know what to do. She is so scared of being a single mom and the possibility of never meeting another man scares her.

How can I tell her to leave him???? She's so scared (not for her safety but emotionally). I think while he's on his March break, she should go back get all her things and leave him a note. She's already met with a lawyer who has assured her she is legally able to leave with the baby as long as she lets him know where they are and then plan on custody, etc.

Any advice is MUCH NEEDED! I might even forward it to her!!!!

Thanks.

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