My husband is loving, adoring, gentle, soft spoken, patient, family centred, understanding, yet he has NO empathy whatsoever. He is almost RUTHLESS. He simply can't put on another person's shoe. I can give and give and he'll take and take and it will never occur to him that it would be nice for him to do something nice for me. Strange, eh? I just don't get it. To me, the greatest gift is being able to help another human being. That's why I love being a moderator on these boards - it's my soul's work. It's fulfilling and makes me feel whole and helpful. He's extremely technical and analytical - a born problem solver. It's his job to assess a situation and give practical solutions to a problem. But when it comes to him DOING solutions, DUH!!!!!!
-------------------- Formerly HanSolo. IBS, OCD, Bipolar, PTSD times 3.