Wow, you two have been through a lot. She is probably picking up on your fears and concerns. Even though she may be very mature for her age, which many children are, she is still only 5. Her little brain just can't process info the same way an adults can. I like the idea of getting her involved in some sort of group activity. something non-competitive would be best. Have you considered therapy of any kind for the two of you. Sometimes people just need a little help with explaining how things are to their children. It's probably very hard for her to understand what is going on. She may even feel at fault for everything. I went through a similar situation as a child and I spent a long time thinking if it weren't for me... I know a lot of people roll their eyes at the idea of going to a church for family counseling, but it's usually free and it couldn't hurt. I think the problem is much more deep rooted than just not wanting to play alone. I would like to say also that you shouldn't feel bad about it. Just the fact that you're looking for advice and considering how to use it shows that you are a caring mother. One more suggestion and I hope I'm not stepping on your toes. When you send her to her room for a time out, tell her when it is done. It can be very difficult for children to determine when they are ready for anything. 5 minutes for 5 years. You can tell her time is done or get a timer that dings and set it for 5 minutes. That way she knows when the punishment is done and she won't have to worry about it once it's over.
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Re: I need help my 5 year old wont play by herself
