Hi Michelle, I agree with what most others have been saying. Esp. b/c of the recent RA diagnosis - she should understand this would not be a good plan for you. Explain to her nicely, offer an alternative lunch or something and see what she says. You shouldn't feel bad about it either - you need to take care of yourself and try to get better - both from RA stuff and from all the pain to heal after loosing the twins. By the way - I meant to tell you that depending what meds they put you on for RA, I may have some experience. Imuran, Remicade and Humira are all currently used for both RA and Crohn's but were originally developed for RA. I've heard humira is a really good drug too. You'll be in my prayers with that diagnosis. Hope you have a good day, Michelle! Min