Ooh, I've got such a similar problem myself right now!
01/31/06 08:46 AM
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epa_ginger
Reged: 02/23/05
Posts: 1158
Loc: Chicago, IL
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Michele, my friend is throwing herself a birthday party this Saturday. She's turning 27. She IS a good friend, no doubt. But she LOVES having parties, and going out. And I'm all for that, but as we get older (I'm 29.5), bars have no appeal anymore, and my husband feels the same. In fact, most of our friends, don't do the bar scene much anymore.
So she wants to have a pre-party at her apartment, and then go downtown to a bar. She's already arranged free cover. Great. But I still don't want to go! Besides just not liking the atmosphere, I'm pregnant, and nearly dying of all day sickness, and I just don't have the energy for that. Plus, on Friday, the day before, I'm going with her to a spa so we'll get to spend time together. I mean, the girl invited like 50 people! And probably most of them will just meet her downtown, so it's not like I'll be missed. She knows I stopped drinking to try and get pregnant, but she doesn't know I AM pregnant. I thought if she got really upset, I'd tell her. But then i realized---you know what?? I shouldn't HAVE To tell her. She should understand that I'm just not up for a bar the way she is. I'm NOT looking to get drunk and meet people. If she's really bothered, that's her problem not mine.
I finally told her when she sent an email out saying---surprise---that she was thinking of getting a limo for everyone!! I told her not to count me and my husband in. And there are many people in our group who can't afford that anyway.
So anyway, I think you should be able to say no thanks and not go. Like everyone else said...a true friend won't be bothered by that.
Ginger
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