Its one of my friend's 35 b-day this weekend. There are three girls in this group of friends. They are all very busy and although I talk to 2 of them usually at least once a month or so, we usually only get together on b-days, or holidays or for the occasional party. The third one is kind of off in her own world. One of these girls is in her 3rd her residentency and will be a "real" doctor in the spring. One of them is an engineer and one of them is in business and makes a LOT of money. The one who is a doctor called me everyday for 3 days after I lost the twins. One of them called me once, a week later and the other never called me at all. None of them really understand what I've been going through and don't really seem to be too interested in knowing either.
With that said, the one who is a dr is planning a big get together this Saturday for her b-day. Ok, fun enough. However, we all live in the metro Detroit area and they want to go Downtown Saturday night, the night before the Super Bowl!! Can we saw mob scene of people????? Then they decided they wanted to rent a limo for the night and cram the maximum 14 people in it and it'll cost us all $100 a person, so thats $200 just for WIll and I to participate plus spending money. Now, the third one has decided that she and her friends don't want to drive and meet everyone at the doctors house like we originally decided to try and keep costs down. We are all scattered about 1.5 hours apart and it would take too long and cost too much money for the limo to go around and pick everyone up, so we decided to meet centrally, which happens to be the b-day girls house. So now the one girl and her friends are upset because I said Will and I can't afford to pay any more money for the limo to make a special trip to go and pick her and her friends up.
I don't see why we need a limo anyways! We have a mini van and several of the people have big SUV's. We can easily fit everyone in 2 or 3 cars and still go together. Then there is the fact they want to go into Downtown on the busiest weekend Detroit has ever seen. Now, they saw they want to spend the evening outside at this Winter Fest they are having. So, we get to bundle up to be outside, which I don't have outside clothes for. All I have is a car coat, no winter coat or boots, never needed them, I don't DO winter! So, we get all bundled up, cram into an over priced limo and sweat to death sitting in whats probably going to be hours of traffic to hang outside in the cold, its February in Michigan for crying out loud! With the RA and Fibro, I'm going to be hurting so much from the cold. Not to mention the probable panic attack from the mobs of people! Can you tell I really don't want to go???? So, what do I do??? Do I be the party pooper and say Will and I aren't going, which means they will either have to cancel the limo or all pay more money. Plus, they will all be mad and unlikely to invite us to do things in the future. Is there a graceful way to bow out? I've been totally stressed over this for several days now and they keep bickering on the details.
Its hard because I only have one other girlfriend. These girls may be what I call fair weather friends but I'm not sure I want to lose them as its so hard for me to make friends to begin with. I know this probably seems petty to a lot of you but I'm really stressing over this!!! What would you do?
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