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You poor honey, that sounds like such a tough situation and decision to make. For what it's worth I think you made the right one. You are about to embark on a whole new part of your life now with your qualification etc and you needed to know exactly what was what before making any plans. You definitely did the right thing. Definitely. I know the missing him must be horrible but you have the right attitude and will get through this.

His relationship with your brother obviously complicates things but at least you can get sneaky updates on him. You are probably best not to email him, guys really need their space when they have girl issues, but it's so hard.

If you were short of patience a year ago, you were very strong to hang on that long. Your prince will come, but you are only 25 so you might have a few more frogs to kiss along the way. Don't rush into anything

Your story reminds me of a heartbreaking conversation I had on New Year's Eve with a college buddy of mine's girlfriend. He is one of those guys who thinks that it is cool not to be married or get engaged etc. He is on top of his game when it comes to his career etc but when it comes to his GF he is such a kid. She's 30, he's 31, they are together 4 years. We started chatting about when we'd be going to their wedding etc and she went all quiet first and then got emotional. She thinks it's going to be forever before he is ready to commit.

Her sister is having fertility problems and she is scared she might have the same issues, but she cried to me that she doesn't think that he will pop the question for a long time and she is getting worried that if it's too late for her to have kids. Guys really don't think about things like that. I don't know what it is with my friend that is making him act like this, but one thing is that he is one of seven kids, he's the 4th one and only one is married so maybe it's a family thing to marry late, he just doesn't realise how much he is hurting his GF. They are together 4 years and she is so lovely. I had a serious conversation with him where I warned him in vague terms not to let her slip through his fingers, I got very strong on it, meanwhile he asked me if I liked his curtains! He is so stubborn.

I've another friend who is 30, her BF is 25. She had a chat with him lately as she wanted to know where she stood but didn't want to put pressure on him. So, he said that he wasn't ready yet but to give him a couple of years. So now she knows where she stands and can plan accordingly and they are both happy out.

People are funny, and are all different, it's funny to see such a different reaction to similar situations by two guys. I know which one I'd want!

Hang in there hon, the feelings are horrible but you seem to be able to detach yourself enough that you have identified that it might not really be him that you miss but the company etc. Keep busy, do things that you enjoy and you will do just great

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