Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: Advice from my shrink

One of the things I'm struggling with in my grief is people saying things that they don't realize hurt me. Like some of my friends saying "aw well, just try again." Or "at least you know you can get pregnant," I want to scream getting pregnant doesn't mean anything if you can't carry the baby. Or the one I was forever getting while trying to get pregnant, the old just relax and it'll happen thing. Grr!

I think the key is, is to try and see how the comment, or topic in this case, was met. Another example is that even though I'm not religious, I still celebrate the commercial christmas and like saying Merry Christmas to people. The dr I work for is Jewish and we have a LOT of jewish patients but 99.9% of them aren't upset when I wish them merry christmas even though they don't "do" christmas, because they know that I met the comment in a good spirited way. People are not always politically correct but that doesn't mean that they mean offense. I can understand why some poeple are upset by the whole porn discussion but Lyndsey was upset and looking for help. A friend in need is still a freind in need, weather the topic is upsetting or not. I'm sure there were several people who would have rather not heard about my fertility issues but I would also think that even the majority of those people where happy when I got pregnant.

I agree, I think the pm'ing would take away from the boards. Maybe I'm too liberal in thinking but we are all friends and would you stop being someones friend if they admitted they looked at porn, or didn't believe in God or had an abortion, did drugs or whatever the sensative issue may be. Some of us pray, some of us light candels, some of us have ceramonies, some of us believe in carma, some of us medicate in the garden, some of us don't know what we believe. As long as we are not purposefully hurting people, we should accept the diversity here and take comfort in each others friendships. I was TRUELY touched by the out pouring of support I recieved. And weather you said a prayer for me, lit a candel or called and made me laugh at all the indignities of it, all of the support was equally cherished. As should the friendships be here. No group of "public" people will ever agree on everything so lets all try to be a bit more tolerant. Just my hormonal, emotional 2cents!

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