Michele.. I know how hard it will be for you to tell your friend especially at this time. At first, I was going to say wait until after the funeral.. but its true that someone might mention something about you being pregant there as well to try to lighten the already sad sad mood at a funeral. That may make it much much worse for you. In that case, you should probably forewarn her. I'm so sorry you have to do this in the first place.