To be honest, the communication thing is probably more my fault than his. I should be asking more questions. And unlike every other doctor I've been to so far, he will continually stop to ask me if I do have any questions about what he's saying.
I had wanted to do the laparoscopy anyway to check out the endo situation. The cyst ended up being an unexpected surprise. The laparoscopy isn't that invasive and he's already warned me he might be taking out the cyst, and I'm OK with that. I don't have time for a second opinion. It is really hard to get into a gynecologist here at short notice. In this case, no matter what, I'm doing the laparoscopy, so if I seek out a second opinion, it would probably be after the fact if I wasn't happy with the way the gynecologist was handling it.
I always figured a female gynecologist would be any more sympathetic and/or knowledgeable. I've been doing regular paps/pelvic exams for the past six years, all by women, and every time I complained about painful sex. Every time I basically got blown off. When I complained to this guy (GUY), I got answers.
The main thing, I guess, is that I'm sort of paranoid about the cancer thing and wondering if he's deliberately steering away from that just so I don't needlessly freak out. Or maybe I'm being paranoid about that!!! Who knows. At the same time -- I didn't ask. I didn't pipe up and say, "So maybe it's rare, but you're still going to make dead sure I don't have it, right?" I should have. And maybe it's my inner disgust at myself that's fueling the paranoia. Whatever ...
I have NEVER wanted to go to a guy about gynecological problems, but the fact is, he's taking me a lot more seriously than any woman. So for that alone I plan on sticking with him, at least for now. Because, as I've found out the hard way, if you are unhappy with DR #1, the odds are good that you might be just as unhappy with DR #2, #3, and #4.
Thanks for your input! We'll see how the laparoscopy goes.
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