I went to a school seminar and they talked about this thing called the Johari Window and basically it said that the more honest you are and the more you disclose about yourself personally, the more you find out about others and their stories.
I think that happened to you - especially considering you mentioned that you are a private person.
I'm trying to be more open with things like that too. It's just, having that background with a mother like that, you try not to bring it to the surface all the time. I know that my biggest 'hate' is to feel like someone is going to judge me based on her actions.
Anyway - there's a lot of things we have to overcome having this kind of relationship with our mother, and I can understand perfectly why you'd be going through all of these things now becoming a mother yourself. Remember though, we'll be great at motherhood as we've learnt all the things NOT to do to our child!!!!
Also - we are lucky to have such other wonderfully special people in our lives (fathers, partner) who balance things out for us.
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